"Time with friends, time spent on activities that don't include kids or work, and time alone are all important." If you don't have time for these, your schedule may be too busy to fit dating in -- for now.
If you want to date, you'll have to make time in your life for it.
No matter what the age of the child, avoid a detailed account of why you broke up.
Your kids deserve an explanation, but shouldn't be your confidants."This is big nay for me when children are in the house," Zane says.
Since hitting the bars is out, start by "dating" for friends, Baumgartner suggests.
Look for people who like to do the same things as you do. They offer a casual group setting and regularly scheduled meet-ups, and allow you to do something while you're getting to know the other person.
Why is it that in any relationship, there's always that one unnerving deal breaker?
It doesn't matter how serendipitous your initial meeting was or how great of chemistry you two have... And when it does, you have to ask yourself: Do you settle, or do you break things off?
It's worth being upfront about the fact you have kids, Zane says.
The children may already feel they lost one parent in the divorce, Baumgartner says, you don't want to put them through another loss if this relationship ends.
It's also important to consider the age and personality of your children.
"In my coaching practice, I suggest that single moms do the inside work to get really clear about their wants, needs, values and beliefs and get in touch with their intuition," says Kerri Zane, single-mom lifestyle expert and author of It Takes All 5: A Single Mom's Guide to Finding the Real One.
Once you've decided that you're ready to date, it might feel impossible to find the time."Not to say that one should abstain from this kind of activity, but it's best to do it when the kids are not in your custody or [are] at a friend's house." Still thinking of having your new love spend the night when the kids are home?