It often goes something like this: “I spend my days as a busy lawyer and my evenings teaching courses at the local college.Many weekends are spent training for my next marathon and singing in my church choir.” Whew!It’s too generic, common and, frankly says nothing about you that’s interesting.Instead, be more specific and paint a picture for him.But whether you’re actually looking online or have just flirted with the idea, if you’re an older woman you might have an inkling that this way of meeting potential partners is especially challenging for you.That’s because the messages we grew up with about what a woman is supposed to do and say can hinder our ability to find the person we’re searching for.
Yet when you don’t speak up about you want, you reduce your chances of finding a good match.
After all, you’ve probably accomplished a lot in your life without a man and are prepared to continue doing so.
Be careful not to sound like there is no room in your life for a relationship.
Does your profile sound like someone who likes to have a good time? “I’ve tried online dating before and it didn’t work, but I’m trying it again.” Or “I’ve had a lot of challenges and hardships over the last 20 years and now I’m ready for a change.” Or “I’ve devoted my life to my children and caring for my elderly parents…now it’s my turn.” Again, this all may be true, but it’s important to let your prospective match know that spending time with you will be enjoyable…otherwise why would they want to contact you?
When was the last time you read a man’s profile and thought “Wow, he sounds like he really needs me to cheer him up…I definitely want to meet him!I guarantee you’ll see the immediate payoff in the quality of men you attract. Here are some statements I see every day in women’s profiles: “I’ve waited so long for the right relationship and I hope it’s finally my time.” “I’m ready to be his everything.” “I’m looking for a relationship where we are totally devoted to each other.” While some of this may be true for you, it’s not something to put in a profile.