Prior to making a play for a colleague, work out the following - however hard it is to be coldly rational under the circumstances: 1. Being positive: Surely the best move if you fancy a colleague is to ask them out on a good, old-fashioned date.
Do either of you have attachments - are you or this other person married/living with one another? Let them know it's a social thing too, or they may be unsure whether it's a meeting to discuss business.
and because of that there must be a rule: Sex on the first date is OUT! Think anything that will scare you enough to persuade you to wait until you are in a serious and stable relationship.
It is difficult jilting anyone you have to work with, but once you have had sex it is a million times tougher and more complicated. Don't tell even your closest workmates what went on.
There's no need to keep the whole thing secret, but never, ever spill the beans about what was said and what was done. Never tell anyone you work with what a disaster/rave it was.
Be polite, open, honest, and assertive, not furtive. And never be lewd (good, old-fashioned word) or make a pass.
How about: "Would you like to come out for a meal with me tomorrow night?
This system obviously has advantages over night-time pick-ups in darkened clubs, holiday romances, (notoriously short-lived), or blind dates arranged by friends. High-powered City workers of the Nineties are accustomed to using the office as a complete life- support system. Making a pass is a dangerous manoeuvre in the workplace. Trying to blur the lines between business and pleasure will appear sleazy.