We still must question who it is exactly that is texting or messaging us because, more often than not, one’s online presentation is enhanced—some go so far as to fictionalize their personalities to get dates.
Those who remain 100 per cent honest about who they are when using dating tools are few and far between.
“I wanted something that was radically different than what was out there while borrowing some of the good ideas and concepts of western dating apps,” he says.
Part of the app’s differentiation was speaking to the diversity within Muslim communities.
Sonia*, a 25-year-old master’s student, sums it up like this: “I feel that because I have other aspects of my life in place—from work to finishing my master’s to training for a marathon—this aspect is something I should also take steps toward achieving.
It’s the rest of my life, so why wouldn’t I want a say in it?
“We are conducting the entire process of finding someone with a tick-box mentality. “We have become overly specific on ensuring an individual has X, Y or Z or earns a certain amount, as opposed to seeing how suitable the person is with respect to personality and life goals and ambitions.” According to Psychology Today, people have the tendency to fill in the information gaps with flattering details when looking for mates online, while making themselves appear as desirable as possible, even if that means exaggerating their positive traits.
Adeela*, 22, has tried Minder and Tinder in her quest for “an open-minded brown guy who adheres to the same moral standards,” which, to her, means a guy who does not drink or do drugs, and of whom her parents would approve.
But for those of us who continue to search for a proper soulmate—regardless of preference—one thing is for certain: Bad dates know no religious bounds.
Salaam Swipe was also launched recently by Canadian entrepreneur Khalil Jessa and allows users to filter matches based on their political beliefs.